This is not about holding the door for women. This is not about holding your own door if you ARE a woman. This is about having the common decency to maintain a social contract where we all simply DON’T ALLOW PEOPLE TO WALK INTO SOLID PLANES OF MATTER.
1. Hold the door for anyone and everyone.
I personally feel really uncomfortable when someone holds the door for me. It’s like, “I GOT THIS I WAS RAISED TO BE INDEPENDENT I CAN HANDLE A DOOR.” However, nothing infuriates me more than when I’m walking towards work and someone sees that I have two bags and a cup of coffee and will deliberately not make eye contact so as to lead me to believe they didn’t see me and didn’t have to hold the door. So, don’t feel embargoed by gender or age or race. Better safe than sorry.
2. If someone is less than six feet behind you, hold the door.
Not six steps, six actual feet. Just wait and keep your hand on the door, allowing for someone to enter the building in front of or behind you. Start here, and extend your range – try ten feet or even whenever you see someone who may reasonably make it to the door within 30 seconds of you. This applies doubly for anyone with their hands full. Christmas is a’comin’ and everyone is going to have packages, small children, animals – do them a solid and get the door for them.
3. “Holding the door” has many meanings.
It can be holding the door completely open like a doorman and allowing a group of people to go in front of you. It can be making sure the door is open enough to let someone slide through. It can be keeping your hand on the glass pane of a door as you see someone dashing to make it through.
4. This applies to all doors.
Elevators. Buildings. Cars. Trapdoors. Just hold them. Not to a wide, vacant space, obviously, but to another person in the world who simply needs to be move freely.
5. Don’t be a jerk
Don’t scowl at people who you are holding the door for. Try saying, “No rush” when they are scuttling up the sidewalk to relieve you from the duty of door holding. Don’t make stupid jokes about how you should “get a tip” for holding the door so long. Behave like a person capable of social interaction, even with strangers.
6. If someone holds the door for you, say thanks.
Just like when you’re merging into traffic, give some kind of acknowledgement of a person’s unselfish acts.
7. Awkward is going to happen.
Sometimes, people are going to hold the door for you while you try to hold the door for them, or sometimes people are going to try to come through when you’re trying to get out to hold the door handle. Just grit your teeth and deal, because none of that is as bad as watching a door slam in your own face.
Door holding in 2013 will automatically get you elected to sainthood. Let’s get out there and hold some doors, team. The world needs us.